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WWJD?

04.10.06 (10:26 am) [edit]

What would Jesus do? I continue to struggle to make things work. I think the pain is taking a toll on my health and I need some resolution soon. I continue to receive advice and read books, websites, etc. I'm currently reading 'Torn Asunder: Recovering From Extramarital Affairs by Dave Carder.' There is a wealth of information and guidance. I just wish Charlin thought it was as important to her as it is to me. I'm extremely patient and want the best for all. We know where we both went wrong. How do I regain her love? I know the road to recovery from an affair can be extremely long but can I make it?

Today, I'm down. I reflect back on all that we've gone through. At what point does one give up on his/her dreams and seek new 'adventures?' What do you do when Christians tell you to prepare for divorce, to move on? My heart and soul tells me to continue the fight to win the one woman who means everything to me. My mind tells me to prepare for divorce.

Another problem? Why is it so difficult to seek spiritual guidance from church? I recommitted my life just a couple of weeks ago and I feel like there's a bigger 'absence' today. How does one 'put it all in God's hands?' I truly want Him to take care of my family. We can endure through these times but I need assistance now.

I need to get back to work, just had to get things out. God Bless and have a great day!

posted by: Micah (reply)
post date: 04.10.06 (10:03 am)

I completely understand how you feel. I too have felt the urge to fight fight fight! When everything was telling me to let it all go. There have been a few times when I thought my marriage was ending. The difference here is that whereas my wife was willing to make the neccessary adjustments, yours does not. If she is continuing to hang on to that thing that caused her to sin, (I mentioned this before, remember? Matt 18.8) then she just doesn't feel the way you do. I too have struggled with problems to the extent that my health was suffering in many areas. It is at that time that I realized, "I've got to make a change here. This isn't what God wants for me."

I know it's tough. And it may still work, if you can be in agreement that you're both going to do whatever it takes to make it work. But if you're not on the same page, you just won't make it.(Amos 3.3)

Don't give up on your dreams just yet. God has bigger and better plans for you.(Jeremiah 29.11 Habakkuk 1.5) Just follow his Word and his principles (Jeremiah 33.3)

Above all this, I strongly urge you to keep attending church and to get couseling. You'll need it more than ever.

Always praying for you.

posted by: Deanna (reply)
post date: 04.11.06 (7:02 am)

There is a book by James Dodson (christian author) that might be of help to you. It is called Love Must Be Tough. I read it when I was going through some hard times in my relationship and it was pretty helpful to me.

You have a lot of people backing you up, so don't feel discouraged. God loves you and is always with you no matter how down you feel.